I WANT TO GET MARRIED. PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BLESSINGS.
Prabhat, have you gone crazy or something? Love is enough; marriage is not going to add
anything to it. In fact, why are you in such a hurry to finish some beautiful experience?
Wait. When you see that now love is finished, you can get married.
A minister received this thankyou letter from a bridegroom he had married: "Dear
Reverend, I want to thank you for the beautiful way you brought my happiness to a
conclusion."
Prabhat, you are very young, only twenty-two. One should marry only when one is wise
enough. Marriage is not for young people. For young people is to fool around. Marriage
is for those who have experienced life in many ways, who have seen all the colors, the
whole spectrum of it, and are now ready to settle.
My own suggestion is that nobody should marry before forty-two. When you have
already had your first heart attack, then marry. Before that it is too early, and foolish. But
maybe because you are only twenty-two and foolish the question has arisen.
Five-year-old Steven: "Are you a virgin?"
Four-year-old Susan: "No, not yet."
It takes time. You are too young; wait a little. When you are tired -- when you are tired of
adventures, when you are tired of your freedom, when you are tired of your openness to
life and its millions of opportunities -- then you can go to a court and get married. But
why now?
Student in the Highlands looking for summer work: "Got any odd jobs?"
Farmer: "Well, you could try milking the bull."
That will be far better, Prabhat. You are in search for some odd jobs... otherwise why?
Love, and love as deeply as possible. And if love itself becomes the marriage, that is
another thing, altogether different. If love itself becomes such an intimacy that it is
unbreakable, that is another thing, that is not a legal sanction.
Legal sanctions are needed only because you are afraid. You know that your love is not
enough; you need the legal support for it. You know perfectly well that you can escape or
the woman can escape, hence you need the policeman to keep you together. But this is
ugly, to need a policeman to keep you together. That's what marriage is!
I can bless your love, but I cannot bless your marriage. If love itself is your marriage,
then all of my blessings are there for you; otherwise wait. There is no hurry. It is better to
wait than to repent later on.
Enough for today.
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