WHILE YOU WERE POINTING THE FINGER TO THE MOON YOU SAID TODAY,
"MEN HAVE TO BECOME MORE MASCULINE." WHAT IS THIS MASCULINE?
Prem Anubhava, masculinity can have two directions, just as feminineness can have two
directions. The masculine mind can be aggressive, violent, destructive -- that is only one
of the possibilities. Men have tried that, and humanity has suffered much from it. And
when men try this negative aspect of masculinity, women naturally start moving into the
negative feminineness, just to keep together with men. Otherwise the rift will be too
great, unbridgeable. When the feminine is negative it is inactivity, lethargy, indifference.
The negative man can only have a bridge with a negative woman.
But there is a positive aspect too. Nothing can be only negative; every negativity has a
positive aspect too. Every dark cloud has a silver lining, and every night is followed by a
dawn.
moving on a different plane. The negative masculine mind becomes destructive, the
positive masculine mind becomes creative. Destructiveness and creativeness are not two
things, but two aspects of one energy. The same energy can become aggression and the
same energy can become initiative.
When aggression is initiative it has a beauty of its own. When violence becomes
adventure, when violence becomes exploration, exploration of the new, of the unknown,
it is tremendously beneficial.
And so is the case with the feminine. Inactivity is negative, receptivity is positive. They
both look alike, they look very similar. You will need very penetrating eyes to see the
difference between the inactive and the receptive. The receptive is a welcome, it is an
awaiting, it has a prayer in it. Receptivity is a host, receptivity is a womb. Inactivity is
simply dullness, death, hopelessness. There is nothing to wait for, nothing to expect,
nothing is ever going to happen. It is falling into lethargy, it is falling into a kind of
indifference. And indifference and lethargy are poisons.
But the same thing that becomes indifference can become detachment, and then it has a
totally different flavor. Indifference looks like detachment, but it is not; indifference is
simply no interest. Detachment is not absence of interest -- detachment is absolute
interest, tremendous interest, but still with the capacity of non-clinging. Enjoy the
moment while it is there and when the moment starts disappearing, as everything is
bound to disappear, let it go. That is detachment.
Lethargy is a negative state. One is like a lump of mud just lying there -- no possibility of
growth, no exuberance, no flowering. But the same energy can become a pool, a great
pool of energy -- not going anywhere, not doing anything, but the energy accumulating
and accumulating and accumulating.
And scientists say that at a certain point the quantitative change becomes a qualitative
change. At a hundred degrees heat the water evaporates. At ninety-nine degrees it has not
evaporated yet; at ninety-nine point nine degrees it has still not evaporated. But just point
one degree more, and the water will take a quantum leap.
Positive feminineness is not like lethargy, it is like a tremendous pool of energy. And as
the energy gathers and accumulates, it goes through many qualitative changes.
A man, to be really masculine, has to be adventurous, has to be creative, has to be able to
take as many initiatives in life as possible. The woman, to be really a woman, has to be a
pool of energy behind the man, so the adventure can have as much energy as possible.
Energy will be needed so that the adventure can have some inspiration, so that the
adventure can have some poetry, so that the adventurous soul can relax in the woman and
be replenished with life, rejuvenated.
Man and woman both together, moving positively, are one whole. And the real couple --
and there are very few real couples -- is one in which each has joined with the other in a
positive way. Ninety-nine percent of couples are joined together in a negative way. That's
why there is so much misery in the world.
I repeat it again: the man has to be masculine and the woman has to be feminine, but in a
positive way. Then to be together is a meditation, then to be together is really a great
adventure. Then to be together brings new surprises every day. Then life is a dance
between these two polarities, and they help each other, they nourish each other.
Man alone will not be able to go very far. Woman alone will be just a pool of energy with
no possibility of any dynamic movement. When both are together they are
complementary. No one is higher than the other; complementaries are never higher and
lower, complementaries are equal. Neither the man nor the woman is higher, they are
complementaries. Together they make a whole, and together they can create a holiness
which is not possible for either separately.
That's why Jesus or Buddha look a little less rich than Krishna, and the reason is that they
are alone. Krishna is more total. Hence, in India, Krishna is thought to be the perfect
avatar, the perfect incarnation of God. Buddha is thought to be partial, so is Mahavira a
partial manifestation of God, and so is Jesus. Krishna has something of totality in him.
And one thing more. If it was only a case of an outer meeting of man and woman, it
would not have been so important. It is also a case of a meeting deep down in the being
of each man and woman, because each man is a woman inside too, and each woman is a
man inside too. The outer meeting and merging with the other is really a lesson, an
experiment, to prepare for the inner meeting.
Each man is born out of a man and a woman. Half of you comes from your father and
half of you comes from your mother. You are a meeting of polar opposites.
Modern psychology, particularly the Jungian school of psychology, accepts this, is based
on this, that man is bisexual and so is woman. If your conscious mind is that of a man,
then your unconscious will be that of a woman, and vice versa.
But to manage the inner meeting is difficult in the beginning, because the inner is
invisible. First you have to learn the lesson with the visible. Meet with the outer woman,
meet with the outer man, so that you can have a few experiences of what this meeting is
all about. Then, slowly slowly, you can search withinwards and find the same polarity
there.
The day your inner man and woman meet, you are enlightened. That day is a day of great
celebration, not only for you but for the whole existence. One man has arrived back
again. Out of millions and millions, one man has arrived.
It is said that when Buddha became enlightened, flowers showered from the sky. These
are not historical facts, they are poetic expressions, but of tremendous significance. The
whole existence must have danced, must have sung, must have showered millions of
flowers -- because it is a rare phenomenon. A groping soul suddenly has become
integrated, a fragmentary soul has become crystallized. One man has become God: it has
to be celebrated. It is a blessing to the whole existence.
But the first lesson has to be learned outside, remember. Unless you have known the
woman on the outer plane, in all her richness, in all her sweetness and bitterness; unless
you have known the man on the outside, in all his beauty and in all his ugliness, you will
not be able to move into the inner dimension. You will not be able to allow the yin and
yang, Shiva and Shakti, to meet inside.
And that meeting is of utter importance, of ultimate importance, because only with that
meeting do you become a god -- never before it.
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